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how to deal with abusive parents + how to get motivated again

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They are really manipulative and narcissistic. my mom is iolent with me. ive been depressed since i was 14 and i have ocd and bipolar symptoms too. the depression got  better for a while but it's bad again now. ive dealt with low self esteem because of my parents but have made it better on my own somewhat. i used to be good at school too but because of my depression i cant focus anymore and i have lost all motivation. i am also scared that i will become violent like them and maybe have become like them somewhat, and that it will be too late for therapy once i start earning. ive been dissociated too but not anymore.

 
Posted : 07/06/2021 4:02 PM
Ms. Shamsa Arif
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It's a critical issue, without knowing the history in detail i could not give you exact solutions to deal with that specific behavior. Anyhow in general you can use some stretegies for instance; focus on what you can control regarding abuse instead of what you cannot control. Definitely before your parent reaction there might be a reason you need to avoid that reason or deal with it to avoid their anger. Focus on your own goals such as doing well in school or learning how to play a sport or instrument. Just focus on your own hopes and dreams. Think about what you want to become and start getting information about it or working toward it. In this way you can achieve what you want to achieve. Most important thing is don't blame yourself. Your behavior does not determine what your parent chooses to say or do. It is their choice to respond or react however they choose. Find something to take your mind off it. Thinking the situation over and over isn't going to help at all. Go for an adequate walk, relaxation exercise or to play a healthy game to enjoy your life in healthy manner. If you feel like hurting your abuser, don't. Punch a pillow, instead.Last but not least find a safe spot and a safe object. Stay there to calm yourself. Please contact our customer support at 03001003171 if you cannot afford. Remember that if there is a will there is a way. 

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Posted : 09/06/2021 4:54 PM

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